Dalrock has a tragicomic post up about an evangelical organisation in America running a programme called "Stepping up". The programme calls on men to "courageously lead at home, at church, at work, and in their communities." But here's the catch: the evangelical men leading the programme talk at length about how to get wives to "give permission" so that husbands are allowed to attend the "courageous male leader" seminars.
I laughed at the situation, even though it highlights just how far things have deteriorated. Modern marriage restricts men from carrying out the role they are supposed to play not only within the family but also within society. In this sense it is emasculating.
Men should, without fear of committing a fatal marital "infraction," be able to:
1. Step in when their sons are still young in order to begin the process of socialising the boy toward a successful masculine adulthood (you would be surprised by how many mothers intervene to prevent this, pushing the father away from this paternal role).
2. Dedicate some of their time and energies to their civilisational role outside the home, even if this is unpaid.
3. Socialise with other men, or else have leisure time for masculine pursuits (e.g. hiking, gym).
This should be so embedded within the culture that it becomes an expectation rather than something requiring a special dispensation from women.
Maybe one day Western men will not be nervously asking permission from their wives to "courageously lead at home, at church, at work, and in their communities."