Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Wealthy women prefer conservative men

I'm not going to rest a lot on stories like this, but they're worth a quick look:
Nearly 77 per cent of democrat female millionaires, and 82 per cent of female millionaires overall, said they 'would prefer to date a conservative man,' according to MillionaireMatch.com.

So even leftist wealthy women would prefer to marry a conservative man. Why? Some of the reasons given include the following:
'I don’t want a liberal man, I want someone who believes in a traditional family,' said one female millionaire.

Apparently, democratic female millionaires also find liberal men 'less masculine'.

'Simply put, conservative men are real men. They are the breadwinners, they wear the pants and they treat you like a lady,' one woman said.

There's a similar story about a government sponsored initiative in Switzerland to have 20% of men work part-time. A newspaper interviewed several young, ambitious careerist women, but none of them wanted their men at home:
Although all of them wanted an equal partner, none wanted a househusband who does the housework and organises the family.

One woman, Tamara Hernli, put it very strongly:
To still have on cleaning gloves, when the wife comes home from work and longs for sex would be the absolute horror scenario.

I don't think this means men shouldn't help out at home. It does mean, though, that it would be a mistake for a husband to think he was going to establish the right kind of relationship with his wife by doing domestic chores. That's not what is going to nurture a heterosexual relationship.

As for part-time work, I can see it having a positive side if it allows a husband to exert more of a paternal influence at home. I wouldn't choose it for myself, though, because I've seen what happens when a work-force becomes part-time: work demands start to fill up the "time off" so that work that was once paid becomes unpaid. The ideal is, wherever possible, for men to be paid a living wage and to have enough time off, as part of their conditions, to be able to spend time at home with their families.


  1. Of course.

    The idea has always been a "marriage of superheroes" -- not a househusband, but a marriage of two power people who are ambitious, high-earning, high-flying corporate superheroes -- and pulling down seven at least combined. The model, in other words, is consumptive -- pooled resources to create a massive consumptive power.

    Of course the problem is that this doesn't leave much room for children. I've known many, many, many couples like this (not pulling seven, but mid to upper 6s combined), and inevitably what happens is one of three things: (1) one or both scale things down to have a more "manageable" job (i.e., one that is still fairly well-paid, but is not on the real ambition/career/corner-office track in terms of hours), (2) woman goes part-time or simply becomes a SAHM for the period in which the kids are younger than high school or (3) divorce. I do know a handful of the superhero couples, but generally they either have no kids, or they are leading down the path of 1, 2 or 3 and haven't gotten there yet or haven't yet decided which path to take.

    I also know a couple of situations where the man is a "househusband". Sometimes this can work, but it's pretty uncommon. Often there is a role-reversal in terms of relationship power that takes place (the woman becomes the dominant partner), and whether the relationship lasts depends on whether both can adjust to this. I've seen it work, although not without complaints from the woman (sometimes to my own ears, in fact) -- although I do think that women tend to complain about their marriages in general, regardless of the situation. It's not common because most women don't want to be in that role, whether they earn big bucks or not, and don't find a man over whom they exercise power to be attractive, but there are exceptions to that.

  2. Men should be involved at home, but I think we need to define what that means. The tasks necessary to keep a home working are more than just the largely feminine ones (cooking meals, washing dishes, sweeping, etc.). There are masculine tasks as well, such as putting on storm windows, fixing all manner of broken things, changing the oil in the car, and so on. If one watches some good ol' 50s television, one can get a good idea how Father keeps the home running smoothly, yet without doing Mother's work.

  3. They want masculine men but constantly push to make the next generation of men more feminine through enforcing there politics and philosophy on the culture.Masculine men for them but not for there daughters.