Sunday, December 13, 2009

A crude hatchet job on men's rights

Men's Rights activists should be a little bit pleased. They've been noticed. Enough to merit a vitriolic attack on them in the Melbourne Herald Sun.

The hatchet job columnist is a guy by the name of David Penberthy. He ridicules the idea that women might be the perpetrators rather than the victims of domestic violence. He laughs at the idea that there might be domestic violence victims called Nige and Bazza,

hiding in the broom cupboard begging for mercy as the little lady gives them the rounds of the kitchen.

And so he endorses the White Ribbon Day campaign which blames men as a class, male culture and male privilege for domestic violence - with the implication that masculinity itself is anti-social and must be deconstructed.

The problem with Penberthy's argument is that women often are the perpetrators of domestic violence. They are the perpetrators of domestic violence against men, children and other women. One statistic alone is telling here. In 2007, in the Australian state of New South Wales, 2336 women were charged with domestic violence offences.

How can this be? What forms does female domestic violence take? Well, here's a sample from the mainstream media collected over the past few weeks:

Sydney, Australia: Sibling tiff ends in tragic slaying. A young woman has admitted killing her schoolgirl sister after a fight over a hair straightener.

Sydney, Australia: Tragic end for unloved little boy. Rachel Pfitzner loathed her toddler son ... Her callous mistreatment culminated in October 2007 when she murdered the two-year-old.

Bairnsdale, Australia: Brutal street slaying. A woman walking her two dogs was stabbed to death in broad daylight ... The woman is believed to have been attacked by a young woman.

Melbourne, Australia: Mother encouraged daughter to attack. Footage of a mother encouraging her daughter and another teenage girl to brutally assault a shy and vulnerable teenager has been played to a Melbourne court.

London, England: A primary school teacher who specialises in helping aggressive children has been sacked for punching a female colleague in the face.

Langley, Canada: Police in Langley are investigating after a woman kicked a man in the groin so hard he lost a testicle - the latest in a series of similar assaults. "I just want to know what her problem is," victim Anthony Clarke, 22, said this week. "People like her shouldn't be on the streets."

Adelaide, Australia: A jealous wife who allegedly set her husband's penis on fire will answer a murder charge in January.

Epping, Sydney: A 26-year-old woman has been remanded in custody after being charged with the murder of an elderly Sydney woman.

DeLand, Florida: Scorned wife hurls soup can at husband's head. The wife whacked him in the head with a can of soup when he got home, leaving a 1-inch cut on his forehead.

Edgewater, Florida: An Edgewater woman faces felony charges after police said she went after her estranged husband and another woman, cutting them with a razor knife.

Brandon Woods, UK: A 98-year-old woman has been charged with the murder of her 100-year-old room mate.

Remember, these are just the cases of female violence I've stumbled across in the press in the last few weeks. I could have added of course one of the most high-profile cases of domestic violence, the alleged attack on Tiger Woods by his wife Elin.

Oh, and here's one with a photo:

Gold Coast, Australia: A fight erupted between female schoolies last night ... About six girls viciously punched each other and scuffled in the sand.





Not all women are genteel. Women can and do perpetrate violence. Any honest campaign against domestic violence ought to recognise this fact.

I'll leave the last word to Sue Price. She is part of an Australian group called the Men's Rights Agency. David Penberthy's attack piece in the Herald Sun was directed mostly at her, for her criticisms of the White Ribbon Day campaign. But I think she got it right:

“By claiming nearly 30% of young women can expect to be assaulted, WR campaigners are creating an unnecessary climate of fear and an expectation that far greater numbers of young men will be violent”, said Sue Price. “To profile our young men and particularly young impressionable schoolboys in Grades 5 – 8 in such a way is to diminish their belief in themselves as young males. Branding them with a wrist band displaying the slogan 'Say no to domestic violence’ and indoctrinating them in believing they should take on the shame and guilt for others' bad behaviour is totally unacceptable and counterproductive.”

Author of Not Guilty: the Case In defence of men (1999) David Thomas applauded teaching boys to be “non confrontational” but warned “educationalists who seek to cut down on sex–attacks and crimes of assault by attempting to undermine the very idea of masculinity or to feminize young boys will find their policies have precisely the opposite effect. Well-balanced men, who are secure and confident in their masculinity are far less likely to harm women than men who are insecure or resentful” (p.217).

7 comments:

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  2. Let's face it. Mainstream Australian "conservatism", no less than the general Australian media-academic establishment, is dominated by those who - even when their own private lives are not as disgusting as Bill Clinton's and W. H. Auden's - still think that Germaine Greer is an intellectual.

    Once you have swallowed that delusion, you might as well go to Nimbin and spend your declining years in stoner paradise, as retain any capacity for thinking.

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  3. Its interesting that "masculinity" in men should be so criticised while masculinity in women should be positively encouraged.

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  4. "... Well-balanced men, who are secure and confident in their masculinity are far less likely to harm women than men who are insecure or resentful"

    Might that explain what the lefties are up to? Teach the young boys to be afraid of their own masculinity and/or to be resentful toward women, and -- hey!presto-chango! self-fulfilling prophecy.

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  5. Ilion writes,

    "Might that explain what the lefties are up to? Teach the young boys to be afraid of their own masculinity and/or to be resentful toward women, and -- hey!presto-chango! self-fulfilling prophecy."

    Haha, I don't know if the lefties are that prescient, but it's an interesting thought.

    What I do observe, though, is the lefties' old favorite, moral equivalence. Maybe they don't care about rendering men insecure and more likely to become abusive, but they certainly care about rendering men insecure and therefore less likely to resist.

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  6. I'm probably among those who you might accuse of trying to "feminize" young men, so I may as well stand up for myself.

    It is true that a man who is well-balanced and confident in his masculinity is less likely to be violent.

    However, the problem is that such a man is not as common as you might hope. Or frequently, we grow to become this man after a youth spent trying to prove our macho credentials.

    Masculinity has both positive and negative aspects, and different meanings to different people. For many people, manhood means never ever admitting you are wrong, having to win and prove dominance at all costs, and the primacy of physical strength over other qualities.

    It is not hard to see the correlation between this common view of masculinity and male violence (against women and other men).

    This is primarily the kind of masculinity that I am attempting to challenge in my work with young men. I can't speak for any other educator.

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  7. "Masculinity has both positive and negative aspects, and different meanings to different people. For many people, manhood means never ever admitting you are wrong, having to win and prove dominance at all costs, and the primacy of physical strength over other qualities.

    It is not hard to see the correlation between this common view of masculinity and male violence (against women and other men).

    This is primarily the kind of masculinity that I am attempting to challenge in my work with young men. I can't speak for any other educator."

    Wow! I certainly knew a lot of 'masculine' girls growing up if we can use these definitions.

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